This past week we learned about the different sources of stress in marriage/relationships and the affects that stress can have. As a person who comes from a family that has had to deal with a lot of stress during my lifetime, I can really relate to the lessons that we had this week. I thank Brother Williams for his personal touch that he adds to them as well.
The part that stood out to me the most from what we discussed in class was how much stress on just one person can affect everyone in the family. One that same note, it was amazing to see how the stress of certain events at one point in time can greatly affect relationships for years to come. It was very somber and touching when Brother Williams shared the experiences of when his siblings died. While the older siblings death was tragic in and of itself, I was very moved by the death of his younger brother. Obviously that was a very trying and hard time for the parents, and from what Brother Williams talked about, it appears as if they never really overcame that. It affected their relationship very much and even affected the way that they treated their other kids and how their other kids interacted with each other.
In my family, my mother has a lot of social issues while my father has been diagnosed as passive aggressive. They typically have a very hard time getting along and have told me numerous times that if it wasn't for their kids and the church that they would have been divorced a long time ago. Taking their many marital issues into consideration, it's no wonder that my sister and I have strained relationships with our parents. Whenever my mom isn't getting her needs met by her husband, she turns to her children in an unhealthy manner. While I love my mom, I can't fulfill her needs like her husband can. Knowing how this works within my family dynamic now is surely going to help me when I start a family of my own.
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